A post shared in r/AskReddit on October 31, 2026, asked divorced users to recall the moment they realized their marriages could not be saved. It had received 20 upvotes and 45 comments at the time of publication, according to The Daily Dot, which reported on the discussion.
One commenter said their spouse ignored a safe word and continued after being told to stop. The commenter wrote that the incident changed how they understood their marriage and that their wedding vows had come to feel like Weapons used against them.
Another user recounted a relationship marked by repeated arguments. After the couple discussed separating, the spouse raised the subject again several months later. The commenter agreed, and said the spouse moved out five months afterward without attempting to reconcile. The user added that they later moved on and had been married for almost 20 years.
A different commenter said they had asked their husband for a separation and that he suggested couples therapy. After two sessions, the therapist recommended that he seek individual therapy. The commenter said their husband later acknowledged that he had not been honest about emotional affairs that had continued for more than a decade. They described his lack of honesty as the breaking point.
One user said years of counseling and efforts to change their own behavior did not improve the marriage. According to their account, a therapist ended the couple’s sessions after the spouse repeatedly blamed them rather than discussing their own actions. The commenter said they finally left after their spouse berated them following an argument in front of other people.
The Daily Dot said it could not independently verify the events described in the Reddit thread. The accounts are based on commenters’ posts, and the identities of the people involved have not been confirmed.
Sources: The Daily Dot.